My thoughts on success


What is success? This is very subjective depending on who you are, and what your values and beliefs are.

Well before I go on…I’m sure many stranger, family or friends have asked you guys this infamous question: What do you do???

I often cringe whenever I hear that question. It’s the one question  that correlates to how successful you are right?

I mean, ask anyone who is a doctor this question, and you know right away his/her bank account has got to look really good. Cha-Ching!!!! SUCCESS right!?!? Yea, I won’t argue with that one…

But, I’m sure many moms out there can attest that this question:(What do you do? belittle their commitment to their family.

Yea I shouldn’t be so mellow dramatic…but…your job is your job, you are not your job. Your job is only a small part of who you are. Their are many people out there that identified themselves as their job. I am a teacher. I am lawyer. I am a nurse. I am just a stay-at-home-mom. I can’t really blame them, even I myself has felt this way at times.

Blame it on society/or your upbringing, it has condition us that our occupation defines our worth.

At times, I am convinced that I am a failure in life. I mean, c’mon…I am 33 years old, and haven’t hit the 6 figure marks. Who knows, I may never hit it. Does that make me any less success than my neighbor?

I think not…

There is so much more than meets the eye. Life is very complex,as we all know. And as much as I want life to be fair, it is not.

Compare these three situation and guess who will most likely succeed:

  1. A child who was born into wealth, has more money than s/he can imagine and does not even have to work a day in his/her life.
  2. A child who was born into a middle-class family, whose parents know exactly how to properly support their child to reach their highest potential.
  3. A child who immigrated to the U.S. from a third-world country, whose parents face language barrier and is living on public assistance.

For my visual learners out there, I see it like this:

3 people in a race: the first runner starts the race at the beginning of the line, the 2nd runner starts the race half way of the race, and the last one starts the race 3/4 of the way. Pretty easy to see who will get to the finish line first.

So advantages and disadvantages…it’s impossible to change the cards life dealt us. We can only make the best out of our situation. The man on top of the mountain sure didn’t fall there. This is just a small reminder that if you haven’t reached your goal(s) yet, don’t give up, keep going…if you keep going, eventually you will reach the finish line. So I guess the old saying, “Slow and steady wins the race” is def. true.

And lastly, I will be real here, we all have our limitations, on top of our disadvantage. I mean if you’re under 5 feet, no matter how hard you practice, or how dedicated you are, chances of you becoming a professional basket ball player versus someone who is 6 feet is pretty slim, right? I’m sure you get where I’m going with this. 

Success is merely that, working with what you already have and making the best of your situation. Be proud of the small progress you made. Success is not over night. Success is hard work. Success takes time. This is the same definition I will be giving to my son.




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